How To Be A Better Couple

10 steps to enjoying each other better...

1. Be realistic about each other
Don't try to turn ur partner into something he or she is not. Let's face it, guys-there's only 1 Pamela Anderson in the world, and even she has had her implants removed! Give ur gal a break and understand that her physical appearance is NOT going to change overnite with the help of a few facials ! or treat ments. And ladies, Brad Pitt has already been taken, so u're gonna have to do with what ur guy is like! Chill out, love each other for what u are. There is more to ur partner than what meets the eye.

2. Always talk things out
Now guys, I know this is not ur fave pastime or mode of resolving issues, but u know what? This works with the gals. Don't make assumptions about each other's feelings. Learn to xpress urself better so that ur partner undrstands what u're angry about, or hurt about, or even happy about! When u stop talking to each other from the heart, it's the beginning of the end.

3. Do stuff together
Make an effort to do things together. Do some sports or involve urselves in some shared activities; something both of u enjoy or are interested in. It could be as simple as watching movies together, or jus strolling hand-in-hand down Orchard Road. Watch soccor with him once in a while though the green patch on TV puts u to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, do give in if ur gal asks for another day at window-shopping, rather than suggest that she go out with her girlfriends for "that sort of activities" instead. If u're spending more time with ur friends rather than with ur partner, it's a warning sign that u're drifting apart!!!

4. Meet each other halfway
If he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with the "The_Rock" print, u shouldn't kick up much of a fuss if he asks u to keep ur room tidy. There's gotta be a little giving and taking in a relationship, so learn to meet each other halfway.

5. Show ur love
Buy her flowers or candy or perfume everynow and then, even if u have been together for 5years. It's wonderful to continue showing someone that u care for him or her. Cook him a special meal, paint him a Valentine's Day card. Knit him mini-socks he can't wear ( like for decorationfiltered=> ), buy him a packet of milk for breakfast, or pack his wardrobe for him...so he knows u can still be romantic and loving despite having been together for quite a while.

6. Respect each other
Stop making jokes about her hair or skin, or whatever it is u love to laugh at. Ask urself if she thinks if its funny. And if he has an inferiority complex about his height, stop ogling at tall guys and make him feel worse! Love is about respecting each other's feelings and being sensitive to each other at all times.

7. Bury the past
Stop bringing up the past. Gals..don't bring up the happy things about u and ur ex to ur guy, it would jus make him jealous or unhappy. And guys, don't talk about the happy times that u had with ur ex or mention about her in ur every other sentence as it would make ur gal feel un-happy and she might think that u saying all this b'cos u are gonna get back with ur ex or not interested in her anymore.

8. Sit on ur jealousy
All of us go thru' spells of insecurity at the beginning of the relationship, but don't translate that insecurity into jealousy. If u're gonna go through ur partner's mail and cupboard, and eavesdropping on conversations, u know something is wrong - with u!!! Jealousy is like a poison that slowly spreads thru' the relationship before finally killing it. Trust ur partner; love has to have trust in it.

9. Keep ur commitments to each other
If ur partner is standing u up all the time and cancelling dates and breaking promises, u need to talk! If u're in a relationship, make ur partner ur priority and don't disappoint them if u can help it. It's really terrible when someone promises to take u to dinner, and then calls to cancel it. Don't make promises u can't keep. If ur partner starts to feel that he/she is not important enough to u, u may jus lose him/her.

10. Be honest
Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the morning, or telling him that he has the biceps of a fly~! When we say "be honest", we mean expressing ur feelings clearly, not being bitingly cruel. When u're hurt, say so, and when u're angry, tell him/her, w/o getting hysterical. If u can't be honest with ur partner, who can u be honest with? æ Love is also about honesty, and a relationship where no honesty exists probabl! y isn't worth it!

14 July 2006

13 July 2006

630pm at Cityhall. You were late. But i never did mind waiting. Dressed up in the Ben Sherman shirt. Looked smart right?? Haha. Sakae outlet at Marina Square was not really up to the standard. Last minute dash to Bakerzin proved worthwhile, cause the cakes are all lining up waiting for us.

Got home to get myself surprised. Bro and da sao are going to Batam the next day. Means i got car for the next 3 days. Can do so many things with the car. Cant wait for the next few days. And its all fated.

14 July 2006

Last day of PA. Its the end of attachment, and its the start of a 3 week holiday for you before school starts. I wanna spend more time with you!! I really do. Became your chauffeur. But i was willing. So dont worry. Home alone was funny. But think the both of us dont like to be home alone. The cake was nice. Thanks. Trying to make me fat by feeding me with tons of cake right?? And suan, dont be jealous k. Hee.

Sorry gene i din go zouk with you all to share the burden. Next time i promise.

15 July 2006

Siemens family day at Fort Canning Park. 40bucks for 6 hrs. 6.6bucks per hr. Got free lunch somemore. So not too bad i guess. My day started off with ktv at hougang plaza with kwangyi. Then street soccer at yewsong's place. And dinner at joy's place. Sums up to a good day. But looking at eugene suffering from intoxication hurts. Hope you recover soon. Drink teh o to clear the alcohol. Guess no more clubbing or drinking for the next one week?? Haha. Better not. The night is still young. Hope it turn out well.

A Path I Chose

10 July 2006

This was a bad day for me. Went to meet gene, ky, ding and kong for lan gaming at hougang plaza. Got home at 10 to discover my computer crashed. It crashed so totally nothing i tried to do could save it. I gave up on it and live with the fact that im not going to have com or net access for the next few weeks. Sian. Its like losing contact with the whole world.

Then came the birthday discussion with mummy. Anything that can go wrong will go wrong. My plan didn't sound good at all to mummy, probably the money issue. Sian. Wish i was a millionaire. Dont have to worry about cash. Started to ponder over things, and almost teared. Sadness came creating chaos in me. Headache over birthday plan.

Was waiting for the phone call that i thought would never come. It came finally. So glad 'shan hu hai' rang on my phone. Thanks babe.

11 July 2006

Met you at Sembawang mrt. I was late. Sorry. Didn't meant to be late. Bought dinner for suan and vincent. So troublesome we had to go to so many places to get all our dinner. Haha. But seriously, i didn't mind at all. Borrowed vcd from suan and proceeded with our 'er ren shi jie' plan. Really enjoyed myself. :) Sorry suan we left your house in a haste. Didn't even warmed the sofa. Another day perhaps.

12 July 2006

Today, i was early. Slightly earlier. Dinner was home cooked, and looked like a feast to me. Think my mum seems really happy to cook for you. Come more often. Then i can get to eat a feast on a more regular basis. Hee. Birth was quite bad. Deuce Bigalow wasn't much better. But as usual, i enjoy the company more than the movies.

You were so tired you fell asleep. I tried to wake you up but was being stared at. I didn't know how to response. I knew it wasn't on purpose. It is just you. I don't blame you, though it kinda hurts a little. But it's alright. I'll get used and immune to it soon. I chose this path.

You

I've decided to use YOU instead of she. Cause this blog is dedicated to YOU. Just for YOU. Just for JOY.

The Box

9 July 2006

Though it's 5.41am in the morning, i'll still blog as promised before i go to bed. The long awaited 3rd 4th placing match was over. Germany won 3-1. Portugal needs a better striker. Maybe me? Haha. Glad you woke up to watch the match with me, if not, it really defeats the purpose of staying over. I really enjoyed your company. Appreciate your effort to watch a world cup match with me though it's past your bed time. Thanks gal.

Swimming was cancelled. Soccer match postponed. But it was nice spending the whole day with you. Though nothing productive was done, i think we had somewhat a great talking session. The card. Left or right?? I definitely want the right. The box. The near by. The you hide and i seek. Conman and woman are wanted. The dumb side of me. Damn. I need to drink more milk. Need to grow smarter!?! But its really a coincidence we each had a card for one another. I think we must be telepathic at times. Hope my mum's dinner was good. And thanks for the neat neat bed. Generally, i was glad that swimming and soccer were cancelled. Spent so much time with you. I really cherish the time with you. I want more of these. Yes, i declare myself greedy. Sensitive July will be over in no time. Hopeful August, i'll wait for your arrival. So... anything else to say??!

World Cup 2006 finals, a once in 4 year match. Italy vs France. How can i miss that?? We all wanted Italy to win. And yes, Italy won it. I think they really deserve to win. Went to a coffeeshop to watch the match with Aven and Junior, and many other soccer fanatics. It was a great match, possibly one of the world cup matches in this tournament. The match was so thrilling a 5-4 win by Italy almost took my heart away. Happy to see the Italians lift the trophy.

I had one of the happiest and unforgetable weekend ever. I will remember 8 & 9 July 2006.

Secret Recipe

8 July 2006

Was so looking forward to today. Don't know why. Probably looking forward to the match, though its 3rd and 4th placing game. Sometimes, its not about the match itself, its about the company too. For today, the company expected is lovely. Felt tired. Spent the afternoon playing mahjiong with mum and aunt. Glad mum had a day off, cause da sao brought Chloe out. Thus mummy had the time to play mahjiong, something she hasn't touched for a while. I won money. Treated them dinner at Sembawang. Mahjiong is not all about winning, its about the process as well. Process of getting together to have a round of mahjiong. Sometimes, you get more than just winnings. There are so many things money can't buy. Say memory.

Was so glad to meet you. Happy to see your smile and laughter. Bet you had a great time in Malaysia today. Got a pair of shoes. But i don't like wedge. Haha. But as long as you like, everything is fine with me. It wasn't your birthday, but you got yourself a big bag of gifts. So jealous! Chocolate cake was nice. Yummy. Thanks babe. So what's the secret recipe in the secret recipe cake?? Knew you're gonna be tired after a long day. Good thing i decided not to go to cute boy ding house. Sweet dreams ya. Germany and Portugal, i wait for you. Portugal please. 2-0 was what the sleepy guru said.

Steamboat Dinner

7 July 2006

We gathered at Jessie's condo function room. 2T18 of year 2002/03. Half the class was there. Pity some of them couldn't make it. At least half were there. Not bad for a last minute thingy. We were there for a purpose. Boon's 21st birthday celebration. Steamboat dinner. Food was quite good. Thanks jess, boon and daniel for the preparation!! Its not easy getting a class together i think. The birthday cake was nice. Dark chocolate!! We had a great time there talking cock. Hanging with different clique of pple gives a totally different feeling. JC classmates are always filled with rubbish and laughter. Fun. And found out that most of them are going NTU. One is in NTU physics, one in NTU biz, some going NTU common engine, one going NTU aerospace engine. NTU, the place to be. At the stroke of mid night, Happy Birthday Boon!! aka twin, the fatter version. Opps. Haha. And thanks Jinhan for driving us home. Thanks alot.

Hang No More!!!

Yesh. I deleted some cookies from my computer and here i am, i can blog at home again!! So glad.

Goblet of Fire was not bad. But i love the company more. So much more than the movie itself. If only i could spend every day like that. I wish. Do you feel the same way too?? I want my com to stop hanging. And myself too, don't wanna hang anymore.

I Am Blue

4 July 2006

Went OCBC to apply for tuition fee loan. The whole process was fast. Much faster than expected. Think the whole thing took less than 5minutes. Fast. Dinner was packed. But it was enjoyable. Watched 40 year old virgin again. The 4th time i think. Good thing i didn't fall asleep this time round. Hope i won't be a virgin at that age.

5 July 2006

Library book returned. Your dinner was packed, mine was home cooked. Mum was funny, kept asking if you are coming home for dinner. Maybe my mum is addicted to cooking for you. Mummy even kept chicken for tmr's dinner just in case you appear for dinner.

Went suan's place. Some of us are blue. Most of them are white. Glad i belonged to the blue group. Photo was nice. But i looked fat and ugly. As usual.

6 July 2006

Packed my wardrobe finally. After procastinating for the past 2 days. Cleared quite a bit of clothes. I don't even know where some of the clothes in my wardrobe came from. Mum tried to be funny again. Kept checking with me if dinner was for 1 or 2 pax. *Faint* Can't blog at home. Dunnoe what happened to my blogger at home. So here i am, somewhere blogging my entries. And Mr Harry Potter, here we come!!

History

First person to come to my mind when i woke up just now was you. First thing that came to my mind was what 'someone' said: History always repeats itself. This sentence struck me real hard. I thought to myself - what if history really repeats itself. Means i have to go through what i have gone through once again?? Is that good or bad???

Spring & Clean Day

3 July 2006

Woke up first thing in the morning to find myself labelled as Mr Dao. Determined to clean my room. At least to make it dust free. Glad i made the outside look and feel good. I'll do something about my messy drawers and wardrobe tmr. There'll be a part 2 i guess.

Im so happy you/she came for dinner at my house. Should i put it as you, or she?? I really don't know. Cause not many people read my blog. At least i know she is one of them. The regular one. I think i'll put it as she. Dinner was kinda suited to her taste. Though i don't exactly knows what she likes or dislikes. Come to think of it, i really have no clue. Can't decide on the drinks, the fruits, the food. Everything also don't know. Haiz. Hope she likes the home cooked food at my house. Suan came later. Settled some stuff. They shared secrets. I knew none. It doesn't really matter. She did what she did. He thanked her for doing what she did. She felt lighter. Am i supposed to feel the same way too?? I don't know.

And is he a taboo person?? Or a taboo topic?? I don't understand.

Problem Solved

Forgot to mention that im so glad. Msn problem is solved. No more restarting. No more hanging. Can chat again!!! Yeah!!!

Worried

1 July 2006

Games day. PS2 at ding house before dinning with his family. Dingyuan attituded. Almost kinda whacked. Pple flooded ding's house. Eugene, Feran, Russell, Debra, Derek, Yuimin, Grace, Leonard, Kevin, Chiloong. What a crowd. There was only one person in joy when Portugal qualify, that's ding. Brazil was disappointing. I wanna be Kaka. Or the old Zidane.

No news from her the whole day. Called her but never answer. Msged her but never reply. Only one word to describe my feelings. Worried.

2 July 2006

Bad day. Bad performance on the pitch. Everyone did badly. No desire to win. No nothing. Buck up guys. We can do better in the next match. Inpulse!!!

Dinner was good. I loved home cooked food. This time round, i din forget to thank mummy. Suan din answer the phone when she was supposed to be there. We were worried. Glad to see the smile and laughter again. Good to see everything alright and back in order.

我真的以为

你在我身边不再怕黑
每个晚上睡的甜美
多暧昧 你却不是我的谁
我在你面前变的谦卑
不敢要求你的一点回馈
担心这种完美瞬间枯萎

我真的以为爱你双倍
过去就会倒退
但它迟早都会一夜珍贵
你的房间里残留 他的气味
所以忘却不干脆
我真的以为爱会双倍
未来不管错对 但你说爱我却不够绝
对还会想见他 却还要我跟随告
诉我爱怎能这样的分配

你在我身边不再怕黑
每个晚上睡的甜美
多暧昧 你却不是我的谁
而我在你面前变的谦卑
不敢要求你的一点回馈
担心这种完美瞬间枯萎

我真的以为爱你双倍
过去就会倒退
但它迟早都会一夜珍贵
你的房间里残留他的气味
所以忘却不干脆
我真的以为爱会双倍
未来不管错对 但你说爱我却不够绝对
还会想见他 却还要我跟随
告诉我爱怎能这样的分配

I'm always here for you... Always...

Complete House Visit

30 June 2006

Email. Addicted. What else, but you. Dinner in Yishun. Fried hokkien prawn mee. Yummy. Shopping at Northpoint. Esprit sales. 39.90 turned out 29.90. Woah. So happy to see your smile after the retail therapy. Keep it up!! Finished up our last house visit at Admiralty. Not sure if vincent was surprised, but our effort was there. Appreciate!! Went to suan house. Fingernail painting. Cool stuff. Everyone had a share of it. Wonder if suan would be put into a difficult position for hosting us. Mum. Dad. Hansel. Not sure. Hope everything is alright. But i guess this is one of our last 'gatherings' le. Everyone has their own commitment. Work, studies, others. I want to find a commitment too!

Petrol is expensive. Shell 98, $1.917 per litre. Crazy stuff. Handphone rang so many times. I guess your inbox was flooded too. Troubled gal. Can sense that you didn't wanna go home. Not until you are really tired and can knock out the moment you see your bed which i love. Sea breeze was nice. But too chilling for you. Next time, i'll rememeber to bring a jacket and sweets.

Just wanna accompany you until you fall asleep. Sleeping is the time you don't think of your problems. This time round, i won't walk out of you. Never.